The social law of reciprocation implies that we should always reciprocate good behavior.
According to this law, we feel obliged to reciprocate when someone gives us something.
For the same reason, we feel socially obliged to maintain a balance between giving and receiving.
In the Manual of Seduction I have shown how you can detect a woman’s subliminal signals by observing the soft signs in her body language. I have also described all what you can do to have a woman attracted to you.
Refer to the Manual of Seduction for a detailed description of how to learn to “read” women properly and attract them!
In order to understand your strength as a male and in order to control you in a relationship,a woman can use female selfishness and break the principle of reciprocation, either right from the start, or some time into a relationship.
When a woman is emotionally and sexually attracted to you and she behaves selfishly, she does so in an attempt to test how strong you are as a male.
This can be either a sign that her personality is not good enough for a relationship, or it can be a test of your Ego strength and leadership qualities.
You should be able to quickly detect what female selfishness is and know how to react properly to her behavior in order to make her attracted to you and keep her that way.
This kind of female selfishness is absolutely not the same thing as “average selfish behavior” in a person, regardless of their gender.
Female selfishness is a peculiar, different kind of selfishness with a clear process behind it. If you focus too much on the content and not enough on the process, you will not be able to see what is really going on.
This is not meant to insult the female sex. These behaviors are usually unconscious and dictated by instinct. Instincts are wild and do not follow the laws of ethics.
Most men usually do not understand the true meaning of selfishness in the case of women. They do not realize that it is not only a character trait, but also, and above all, a test.
This is where the word “bitch” comes from: men who don’t understand the evolutionary origins of selfishness in a woman and how to properly deal with it.
It is also true that some women who do this type of test are narcissistic psychos, but that is not true in all the cases; sometimes good girls can also test you in this way, and it is good for you to be prepared.
The difference between a truly selfish narcissist woman and a good girl is that a good girl will slowly stop this kind of behavior when you react to it like a real man, while the spoiled freaky woman will keep repeating that behavior again and again in the future.
You can encounter this kind of behavior both during the dating game and during a long-term relationship with a woman.
For example, during a date she will begin to speak non-stop about her needs in an almost arrogant and pretentious way, without the slightest consideration for your needs.
At this point, if you are a nice guy or simply a man without enough experience in female psychology and seduction, you will totally fail to understand the real point behind her behavior, and you will begin to feel guilty and try to please her over and over again.
This will quickly establish a double standard in your relationship, and she will start seeing you as a doormat, making her sexual attraction and respect for you fall faster than a bird shot by an M16.
Also, if you lose control, begin to get angry, and argue with her, you also lose the game. By having you argue with her, she manages to control her own sexual instinct, because when you argue, you are investing your energy into her at her command while showing that you cannot control your emotions.
As we have seen elsewhere, a woman finds it crucial to be able to control her own sexual instinct to avoid being at your mercy. So, whatever you do that helps her controlling her sexual instinct plays against you.
Now, this is the proper way of dealing with a woman’s double standard in matters of her needs versus your own needs.
1. The main thing you need to do is:
Take the role of an educator and educate her!
Each time she acts like a spoiled Princess you stay calm, take the role of the Patriarch, and begin to educate her about how to act properly.
Now, this is important: don’t tell her why and do not argue! Simply establish the law!
You establish the law by reframing every attempt she makes to establish a double standard about her needs versus your needs.
If she tries to argue with you, use humor and tease her back without losing emotional control.
Her: ”I want to go to Spanish restaurants; I only like Spanish; all other restaurants are simply disgusting” (and you sense she says this with that spoiled Princess’s attitude that pisses you off so much!)
You: ”Ah.. nice, let’s go to Spanish restaurants; I also like Spanish food” (do not address at all her spoiled behavior at this stage)
The following week:
You: ”I made reservations for us at the Chinese restaurant; I adore Chinese food..”
Her: ”I hate Chinese..”
You. (Here you tease her about her spoiled behavior) ”Don’t worry I am sure they have some dead bull killed by a scary bullfighter they can use to make a steak for you. Let’s go!”
Here, you pass her test, and she thinks ”Wow, what a man!”
Now, be prepared: if her personality is the one of the sexually submissive good girl, she will slowly correct this behavior, and her attraction for you will skyrocket.
If she is a narcissistic, spoiled, freaky girl, she will get angry, and will repeat her selfish behavior again and again.
Stay calm: it is her responsibility to correct her behavior, not yours. This is where freeze-outs are gold: just freeze her out for as much as you need to.
The longest freeze-out I have put into action with an MLTR of mine was… one year and a half long. Right now: she is with me again, telling me what a wonderful man I am, and how much she loves me.
Sometimes she says: ”I am not sure if I can say this… this experience with you taught me humility.”
This woman I am talking about was used to having her entire social circle stand up promptly and satisfy every needs of hers!
Now, she says: ”You taught me humility”
When faced with double standards… be the Patriarch and educate her! It keeps her wanting you!
Anyway, to be able to put this into practice, it is important for you to understand the whole picture of a woman’s psychology.
Franco, helping men since 2004