A situational opener is a conversation starter, the content of which should be something you notice in your surroundings.
Absolutely avoid any kind of situational opener that is connected with her beauty, or anything else that would put her on a pedestal.
Most girls who are hot get approached by men all the time, and have heard every stupid line in the book.
They will automatically shoot you down without a second thought if they sense you are trying to impress them.
The good thing about a situational opener it is that when properly executed, it gives you the window of opportunity necessary for transitioning, without her putting defenses up.
Another benefit is that when you use a situational opener you are actually pacing the ongoing reality at the same time.
When well done, an opener makes her feel that the two of you have a common understanding of the reality you are mutually experiencing.
This makes her feel like you have a connection with her, and as you know, women are all about having a “deep connection.”
The best and most effective situational openers are very simple. Absolutely avoid anything too complicated.
It will take something close to sixty seconds for her to realize what you are doing if you say something complicated, and this can make her feel that you are “trying too hard.”
Simply take something neutral from your surrounding environment, and say it to her.
For example, in a bar you could suddenly turn your head, raise your cup in the air and say with a smile: “Ahh…cappuccino, the best way to start a day!”
Perhaps while you are in a queue you notice her in front of you with a salad, and say with a smile: “I bet there is more fat there than in King Kong´s skin.”
Other good openers can be offered when she has something in her hands, or on her person, which is neutral and non sexual.
A book about marketing is a good example, and pointing that the book, you could say: “Interesting! So you are a Seth Godin fan, too?”
If you are a smart guy and notice something intelligent and cultural in the environment, you can make it a great opener which surprises her and makes her think, “Wow, a guy with brain!”
Soon after the opener you come to transitioning, which means having her engaged in a conversation.
When you have her engaged in a conversation, you can begin to shift the discussion on an emotional level.
Act on her emotions, not her logic!
Dear Franco,
great input once again – i made a lot of good experiences using situational openers!
nonetheless, i often find myself in rush (leaving the subway-station, walking in the crowded city and so on) where i see really beautiful girls passing by within one or two seconds who are in a hurry, too. Because of my job i am very busy so i’d really like to hear from you some ideas how to use these occasions for approaching, too. You write “Absolutely avoid any kind of situational opener that is connected with her beauty” but how should i handle situations where it is pretty clear that i indeed open her just because of her looks??
yours sincerely
steel
btw: when is your new book coming out?
Hello Steel
Thanks for your comment.
Every woman will always assume when you approach her that it is because you want her..
You can´t be worried about that.
What is important is to approach so that she can never demonstrate for sure that it is for that reason.
That will also have her test you more which is indeed good: it makes easier to get her.
Stay well, Franco
“What is important is to approach so that she can never demonstrate for sure that it is for that reason.”
As a woman who has gotten approached many a thousand times, I can tell you that no woman is that stupid. Nobody fucking approaches you because they want to comment on the fucking cappuccino. We’re not completely retarded.
Do you like cappuccino? I think cappuccino is great especially in a wonderful shining morning after a great partying time!