My friends this time a few words about a dangerous belief many men have. The social law of reciprocation does not apply to relationships with women. It does not apply when sexuality is a part of the relationship with her. What is the social law or reciprocation and why this belief can damage you?
One of the pillars of our society is the law of reciprocation. Psychologist Robert Cialdini in his book Influence described it well. When you do something good to someone the other should reciprocate. You can expect something good in return. Let’s call it also the law of “fair exchange.”
There is an exception to this law: women in fertile age who like you on the sexual level. When a woman feels attraction towards you her mind forces her to break the law or reciprocation.
This is because when she begins to feel attraction towards you her mind will begin to focus on 3 things.
These are: the child, safety and…resources.
A woman in fertile age feels that she has no moral duty of reciprocation when you do something good for her.
Do not make of yourself a fool! This is true also for the most “independent” and “modern” of all the women. No matter how modern and free minded she might be.
Her instincts will force her to break the law of reciprocation.
What this means for you?
It means that you cannot relate to a woman who feels desire towards you and base yourself on “fair exchange.”
A direct consequence of this is the absolute absence of democracy. You cannot avoid getting power on her!
Because if you do not, she will.
An important aspect of female sexual game is this: she will act so that you cannot avoid using your power on her.
In fact, if you do not invest in her she cannot have you doing things for her.
No investment of energy from you means no power for her!
What this means on the practical level?
1. If you give something to a woman do not expect anything in return. Do like the Bible suggests: ” But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing.” ( Matthew 6:3)
2. If you want something from a woman who feels desire towards you take it! Do not try to have her do that by being good and waiting for her reciprocate. You will become a fool in her eyes.
3. If a woman seems to function on the level of reciprocation with you that means she sees you as a friend. There is no desire there!
4. This does not apply to all the women. Those who do not care of you as a sexual object may be able to reciprocate. Well not always true, true “in general.” There are also women who are otherwise narcissists. Even when they do not feel desire. Thanks God, only a minority.
5. When you date women and are in a relationship with them keep this in mind. If you get to the level of: “I was so good to you, you should be good to me” you make a huge mistake. When this happens sexual tension in the relationship is dead or will die soon.
6. It is attractive to a woman when you give the vibe that you about this exception to the law of reciprocation. Of course never approach this topic in a direct way! You must sub-communicate since the beginning that you do not expect anything from her. Always sub-communicate that if you want something from her you will come and take it. No negotiations.
7. Put her into the situation of giving you stuff without expecting reciprocation. The more you force her into giving to you without reciprocation the more she will like you.
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