Mirroring

You simply stop bringing your own ideas into the discussion, don´t judge her in any way, and reflect back to her what she is already saying.

Be aware that being adept in this technique is only possible if you have already solved any problems you might have in escalating sexually with a woman.

If you use this technique without linking it to proper sexual escalation, then you can end up in the friend zone with some women, but not necessarily all.

When you look at certain differences between the psychology of men and women, you can understand why mirroring is effective in causing a woman to be sexually attracted. For men it is often difficult to understand what mirroring does to a woman.

Men are accustomed to repressing emotions and accepting the fact that no one, except themselves, will ever be able to help them in controlling their own emotions.

An adult man, and not a boy, will always think along the lines of:“I am a grown up man, and I am the only one responsible for myself and my reactions.” Throughout history, men have had very tough training during wars and hunting sessions on this topic.

For the woman, it is a completely different story: social contacts, communication, pregnancy, and sexuality are inextricably linked to one another.

Strong emotions and changes of mood are linked to female sexual arousal, and there is an inherent need for the woman to “seek help” in dealing with those emotions.

The more feminine a woman is, and the stronger her sexual drive, the more she will feel compelled to seek relief, and to look for someone who will help her control her own emotions.

For a woman, having deep communication and being understood is a huge sexual turn-on, and this is why mirroring works so well in attracting them to you sexually.

The feeling of being understood, and of finally finding a person who can mirror their strong emotions, makes them sexually attached to you.

Here is an example of how you can use mirroring to make a woman sexually attracted to you in a very simple and powerful way.

Her: “I was walking with my dogs this afternoon”

You. “Yes.. you were walking with your dogs.. long walks in the wood, nature..”

Her: (breaking rapport) “I hate the woods, and I hate nature. I prefer a city environment”

You: “A city environment is what you prefer…I see”

Her: “You know, when I was young I lived in the countryside, and I simply hated it….”

You: “The countryside is surely boring.” (you are guessing here)

Her: (breaking rapport again) “No, no I liked the nature, and the woods” (Don´t bother to correct her on the fact that she is denying in one sentence what she said before, and continue mirroring)

You: “So what was in the countryside?….”

Her: “No fun, no bars, no restaurants…..I love to see people…”

You: “Yes, seeing people is fun…it is wonderful to see people.”

While you do this, carefully watch her non-verbal reactions. She has already tested several times whether or not you will argue with her, when she breaks rapport, and you have passed the test.

While you mirror her feelings, invariably she will reach a point where she becomes more relaxed, her posture becomes relaxed, and her eyes and pupils widen.

You need to “catch” this moment by observing her non-verbal reactions, and notice where she feels, “Wow! This guy is actually able to mirror my feelings!”