Gentlemen, at request I write little about freeze outs.
This is slang for cutting communication in a calibrated way.
We all know how women always wish this when around men: “I want you to talk to me about your feelings.” Or, “You should open up to me more.” Or “I want a man who is in touch with his emotions.”
You have read this on Tinder countless times: “If you are not able to speak, swipe left.” Or: “If all what you can say is a short sentence then, swipe left!”
A woman who is not satisfied in a relationship complains: “He never talks to me, he never communicates with me.” What a disappointment for nice, clueless guys when they do “communicate” end up being “only a friend” to her!
Or, if they are in a relationship she says: “It’s not you, it’s me.. I do not feel for you anymore.”
Well a modern woman will never admit this:
It’s about survival.
When compared to men, a woman needs much more a deep connection with her social network.
Men need the same thing much, much less.
The man knows he can live in a wood. Hunt, fish and survive alone.
A man does not get pregnant.
Because of the need for protection a woman needs to build a safe social network around her much
more than men.
She needs that when pregnant or when under the effect of a strong desire for pregnancy.
Well that is the same as saying: each time she is under the effect of a strong sexual desire!
Yes, I know: nowadays a woman can get pregnant without men and get support from society.
Believe me guys: it does not change that instinct.
It only changes the way it presents itself in the communication with men.
Actually, in modern, free-minded liberal societies that instinct gets much, much wilder and… Out of control.
Women, especially LSE (low self-esteem) women,
have conflicting feelings about this need.
A side in the woman needs it a lot. Another side in the woman does not like it.
Especially a LSE modern woman feels this as a “barrier to her independence.”
She cannot see the good things in it.
Many women try to “solve” this problem by adopting masculine behaviors.
For example, the LSE woman who answers to questions with “Hmm…” … “Yeah…” … “Oh…” is trying to control this instinct.
An HSE (high self-esteem) woman will be much better in touch with this instinct.
She will have good strategies to reach the man in the communication.
Those will have the man feel good about communicating with her.
One thing men get wrong (and many women, too) is this: a woman need for communication is not only a social need.
It is an instinct, at the extreme, especially in LSE women, can be a compulsion.
It can be something that overcomes her reason and her self-control.
The more she worries about survival, the more she seeks communication.
For this reason, many guys tend to avoid women, when they want to communicate too much.
They cannot stand the intolerable tension connected with it. They sense that there is something “strange” about it.
Why a woman on the level of her instincts wants you to bond with her and communicate with her all the time?
Simple: it is to get power over you. It is an attempt to covert hypnosis, driven by her instincts.
The more a man is strong, the more he will sense the “covert hypnosis” in female language when she wants to “communicate.”
So, when the clueless guy gives her all what she wants to much, if she is naive about men or maybe hates men she feels:
“Nice, I got him!”
That is the end of the challenge. That is the end of her sexual attraction towards him.
Now do not get me wrong: I do not mean you should not communicate with women.
I mean you should be aware of the role of her instinct and be able to know:
1. When to give communication.
2. When to withdraw communication.
And least but not last: you need to know how to put a price to your communication with her.
Sad to say… women end up despising men who are too easy.
So, what are “freeze outs?”
The art of the freeze out is when you know how and when you must reduce or cut the communication to:
1. Increase her desire.
2. Win sexual resistance on her behalf.
3. Correct improper behavior.
This works with a woman before you have her attracted to you as a tool to have her work for getting you.
This works with a woman when she is already attracted to you as a tool to have her “want more” of you.
If you never give communication to her you, will frustrate her to the point that she will become scared.
You will put her self-esteem down. It will work like a constant, misplaced NEG.
Too much desperation can have her act unpredictable and even dump you, or cheat on you.
If you give too much communication and attention you are being “easy” in her eyes.
This is true in particular in a situation where she is resisting sexual submission to you (in the case of LSE women).
It is true when she cannot relax and feel sexual receptiveness towards you (in the case of HSE women).
You will become “common” and “not interesting anymore.”
This translated into the language of her instinct means: “I already got him. No fun anymore. Let’s get forward hunting.”
Nature does not care about you and her.
Nature cares about having humanity get forward!
By failing to calibrate the above process you are giving her an opportunity to procreate… with another man!
Forget all that nonsense about: “I lost her because I was not talking about feelings with her!”
It is a much deeper thing.
When a woman is attempts to communicate, especially when she does that compulsively, ask yourself questions.
“Where her instincts are trying to have her go?”
There can be many, many reasons. In the coaching I can help you identify many of them.
The most common reason is an attempt of getting power over you guys.
It is a sign that she is very, very attracted to you and hunting you.
Then next question you ask from yourself.
What do I want from her?
In the coaching I notice how a problem many guys have is: they do not know what is their outcome.
Know your outcome!
If she is resisting what you want… you will reduce a little bit communication.
Believe me: this will induce respect in her, a desire to please you.
Her willingness to “negotiate” between her needs and yours will grow.
A freeze-out is this: you move your attention away from her. If necessary, you remove yourself from the interaction.
Do not verbalize it! It will work against you if you do.
For example: “I need to go to buy Christmas presents…” Or… “I have a meeting soon, I forgot! Need to go”
Without saying anything that relates to “why” you are cutting the communication!
This kind of freeze out is a more “massive” cut in communication.
You remove yourself from the interaction!
You leave for a long time, while being vague about when and how you will be available again.
Do not do this if you are facing “minor resistance!”
You must calibrate your freeze out to the level of resistance you are facing. Or it must be a fair response to the misbehaving behavior you are facing.
For example, massive drama, with a lack of respect towards you in a public place is a good reason for a major freeze out.
Token resistance to your sexual approach is not! It makes you look like an idiot!
Instead, when you are facing nicer, less extreme resistance mini-freeze outs are the way to go.
For example, she tests you. At the same time, you notice that she is very aroused, while still resisting your approach.
You run a mini freeze-out.
You get inside your head. Cut eye contact. Begin to relax and enjoy the landscape around.
You need to try this in real situations to see how ti works!
After a while, she will begin to chase you.
Other ways can be: talking to someone else in the venue.
Stare at your cell phone.
Pick a newspaper and begin to read the news.
You need to go to the bathroom in the middle of a conversation.
You need to go to buy some stuff from a shop close to the venue.
Believe me she will seek for communication with you.
She may say things: “Are you okay?” Or… “Are you angry at me.” Or “Please tell me something” (this last one I heard a zillion of times!)
She may reprehend you for doing something while she is talking to you.
She may tell you that you are impolite as you are not paying attention to her.
At this point do not argue, do not comment what she is saying at all!
Continue with your approach. With the mini-freeze out you had her invest energy into you!
If your aim was to kiss her, go for the kiss again.
If your aim was to touch her, do that.
If you were asking for something, ask again.
You, in practice, are putting a price to yourself!
Give this a try: it will surprise you how powerful this is.
As I said, if you want a good relationship with an HSE (high self-esteem) woman be very careful with this approach.
Do it very, very little and only if it is necessary.
You may lose a good woman if you misplace this kind of stuff.
A heterosexual, HSE woman seeks communication with you in a good, respectful way.
Her goal is to bond with you not only to use you… she wants to love you!
She has a good touch with her femininity.
She can distinguish between her desire to be a mother and her need for a good relationship with a man!
She is able to work for both!
Her way to build that is trying to communicate with you in a nice, good and respectful way.
She will not differ from the other women in the core process.
She still will have the need for emotional communication with you!
When you pay attention to those instincts and act on them you will have a woman want mind-blowing sex with you!
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