When you are dealing with beauty simply.. stay calm.
The flight – fight state is probably one of the best indicators of weakness in the human species.
It is a primitive reaction which is there to give you the tools necessary to survive when you are in danger.
There is a downside to it: when you get into flight-fight mode you are also giving the message that you have used all your best means and that you can from now only “fight” or “run.”
When you get into the flight – fight state you are basically giving the message to all the members of the group around you that you have reached the limit of your resources.
Basically you give the message that you are in trouble.
If you are in a position of leadership others will follow your state and begin to feel they are in trouble, too.
When you are the leader the members of your group match your inner state.
If you are calm the group will follow.
When you are in flight-fight mode the group doubts you and your leadership.
When you have this reaction you become “over emotional” and begin to do stuff like putting people down, shouting to them.
You may begin to talk too much. Maybe you over-analyze things.
The real leader of the pack is the one who is able to remain calm and act with decisiveness in spite of difficulties.
When you are seducing a beautiful woman the precise moment you begin to feel that her value is greater than yours you will probably get into flight-fight mode and she will sense that you are worried.
From that moment you cannot lead her anymore.
Women are extremely good in detecting when you are in flight-fight mode.
When they see you are there you level of attractiveness drops.
A woman´s tests are “fake dangers” she puts on your way to check how easily you get into flight-fight mode.
It is a beautiful way of checking how many resources you have.
For the same reason you can seduce very beautiful women without putting their value down.
Techniques like NEGs or “busting her till the bed room” have inside the risk of creating a spiral of negativity between you and the girl.
They also carry the risk of her getting the message that you do not believe you can get her as a woman.
Unless she is badly LSE (low self-esteem) being an asshole to a quality woman will invariably tell her the opposite of what you are trying to achieve: it will tell her that you do not believe in yourself and that your trust in your own resources is very, very low.
The most important thing you can do when you seduce a woman is: stay calm and deeply believe you deserve her.
Believe in yourself.
When you are in this state of mind she will get the message that you are a resourceful man who deeply believes he deserves her.
This is the best of all DHVs you can display: be the calm leader of the group. Show that you believe in yourself and your resources.
After all how a beautiful woman could be a real danger to your safety? If you get into flight-fight mode when dealing with a beautiful woman you are basically showing that you do not believe in yourself and your resources.
So think what happens to your seduction if you get into flight-fight mode when dealing with a beautiful woman!
Franco,
helping men since 2004
