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Sexual escalation is all about what you do to a woman on the physical level in order to make sex with her happen.
Whatever you do that doesn’t include physical contact with her is not sexual escalation.
What you do to her on the level of the emotional communication – before and during sexual escalation – is as important as sexual escalation itself.
Stimulating a woman’s emotionality by the means of communication is extremely important for having her sexually aroused.
Anyway, without proper sexual escalation, what you have done in the area of communication to seduce her will become totally useless.
By that you’ll almost certainly have her "hot and bothered.” In spite of that sex will be pretty much unlikely to happen if you do not take the role of the man and escalate physically!
This is likely to be your problem if you are a nice guy. Nice guys get rejected by women exactly for this point: failure to escalate.
Another group of guys gets it wrong the other way.
They go on her as strong as the District Attorney, scare her and then have her withdraw out of fear and lack of comfort.
What really works is in the middle.
Proper sexual escalation takes two very important factors into consideration at the same time:
1. Her need for a man who is sexually active and self-confident enough to act on her body without shame.
2. At the same time understands her need for comfort, before she can be sexually receptive with a man.
If you only pay attention to the first part, you’ll scare her off. If you pay attention only to the second part – her need for comfort – then you are behaving like a nice guy. That will turn her off and keep you in the friend zone.
A normal woman will become receptive sexually when you are able to create attraction by being bold and self-confident and – at the same time – able to make her feel comfortable about being sexually taken.
So how do you properly escalate?
I am first going to share with you the psychological background of it and then a description of how to properly escalate to sex.
You’ve probably read from my Manual of Seduction that each time we are dealing with a woman we are actually dealing with two women:
1. The Social Woman (Let’s call her also the Socially Adjusted Woman)
2. The Primative Woman (Let’s call her the Cave Woman or the Instinctual Woman)
The term “Primative” means the part of her that is related to her wildest instinct.
You will be able to properly escalate sexually when you are able to "talk" to "both women" at the same time.
These “two women” can follow totally different paths in the same woman, and have totally different behaviors.
In some women, I have observed such an instinctual strength that it was like the Primative Woman would be talking another language compared to the Social Woman in them.
Really, it’s like a double personality.
Some women are pretty in-touch with their archaic part. Others are completely unaware of how this part of their personality affects their behavior.
When interacting with you the Social Woman will tend to control herself and relate to you in the communication, will tend to "connect" with you and act so that the interaction with you is "socially acceptable".
The Primative Woman will be the one who will test you hard for dominance and masculine ego strength. She will be the one who will get sexually excited when you show her that you are The Man. (or shall I say… The Cave Man 
)
This primative part of her will try to get power over you by all means available – legal and non-legal.
Expect her to be wild and totally immoral: you do not only hunt women, you are also “hunted” by them.
Only, the means used by women to “hunt” you will be totally different compared to the means used by you to “hunt” women.
Nice guys are usually unable to notice how actively attracted women will hunt them.
Your sexual escalation will be successful when you create enough comfort for her that she does not feel a conflict between her social part and her primative part.
By stimulating both parts of her at the same time your sexual escalation will be successful.
Important: the more feminine a woman is, the more she will wildly shift the responsibility of the process totally on your shoulders.
This is one challenge when you escalate.
For example the Social Woman in her may talk to you at your encounter about how she “truly believes in equal rights.”
At the same time the Primative Woman will possibly test you by telling you how her former boyfriend had a better job than you.
You need to be able to detect the “game” of both women in her while escalating.
Quite often the unconscious purpose of the woman when she does this stuff is a desire that you might be able to have her feel comfortable about her conflicts.
This is because a woman needs to be able to control her own desire in order to “hunt” you.
Whatever you do to help her into that plays against you.
In a situation like this if you take her at face value and begin to "really" talk with her about her insecurities she will promptly use that to control her own desire and resist your escalation.
Again, if you begin to argue with her she will use also that to control her own sexual desire.
When you are creative during your escalation and have her feel like she would not need to "solve" the evident contradictions in herself, you win… she surrenders to you.
The more a woman is sexually excited, the more this mismatch between the social and primative parts will come out in her.
Steps of proper sexual escalation
It is a process where you do two things mainly:
- Slowly make her emotional when around you – while making her comfortable about her insecurities.
- Slowly touch her each time a "little bit more" until she begins to feel it as ‘good’ and gets sexually aroused.
This way of escalating is called: fractionated sexual escalation. [D1]
Fractionated sexual escalation is when you touch her "little bit" while observing her nonverbal reactions.
When you notice that she gets aroused and at the same time feels comfortable, you touch her "little bit more" and your touching becomes more and more audacious until it’s overtly sexual.
For example, this may be lightly touching her finger, hugging her, sitting close to her, kissing her, touching her back and so on… all in an ”escalating” fractionated way.
Why it is necessary to make her emotional?
Because the main channel for female sexual horniness is not visual like for men.
Women get horny when they feel strong emotions when around a man.
At that point she rationalizes: "He is making me feel like this? I must like him a lot."
Example of sexual escalation:
- You touch her finger
- She is compliant with that
- You take all her hand in your hand
- She is compliant with that
- You put your hand behind her back
- She is compliant with that
- You hug her
- She is compliant with it
- You kiss her
- She kisses you back
- You begin to undress her
- She does not resist
If she resists at any step… you withdraw. Then wait a little bit… build little bit more comfort by talking…then start again from the point you were before.
LRM – Last Minute Resistance.
My take on last minute resistance is this: normal women with a balanced personally usually do not do it.
Women who exhibit LMR are usually women with problems who are unsure about how to bind a man to themselves.
Thus, they begin to get nervous at the last minute and resist. There are many reasons for LMR. I am going to discuss this in-depth in another article.
LMR is a situation where she is compliant sexually to your escalation until the isolated venue (for example your flat or hotel room), for a while in the isolated venue, and then she begins to resist at the last very steps of your escalation.
Notice: this happens in the isolated venue because… there is no female competition there, so she feels comfortable enough playing that card.
If you encounter her LMR what you absolutely need to do is to freeze her out totally.
If that does not work you need to completely cut the communication with her and tell her, without telling her, you aren’t going to see each other anymore.
Don’t worry: you are not being a bad guy here. If she displays LMR you can be sure that she will not ask whether you’ll see each other again either. Women play this kind of stuff dirty and hard.
This is because LMR is an ultimate attempt of the Primative Woman to nail you into supplication so she can free herself to be impregnated by a man stronger than you who does not let her do that stuff.
So, if you still agree to communicate with her when she is displaying LMR you are only another notch in her belt, another nice guy who does not know ”the rules of engagement”.
You are done.
So, in the case you get LMR follow these steps:
1. First freeze her out. For example you dress, go to watch television, make yourself a sandwich, choose a program you like, and become totally immersed in your own fun.
You cut the communication with her.
For a woman a cut of communication is about the same dangerous situation like you sleeping with Pamela Anderson naked and close to you, yet not being able to touch her.
The most dreadful thing you can do to a woman is cut the communication with her.
At a certain point she will seek communication with you (believe me she will) and then, after a while, you will begin to escalate again.
Instead, making the mistake of continuing when she is displaying LMR will give her a chance to rationalize the situation and say stuff like: ”I am not sure if we are meant to be together” or ”I just do not feel like it is right” and so on.
2. If this does not work do not do the stupid thing of sleeping close to her overnight. If you do that you instantly become her eunuch male friend. If you cannot go home, at least go very far from her to sleep… at the worst tell her that you have a headache and need to go home, and then leave… and as you leave, wish her a good night’s sleep.
Don’t tell her when and how you are going to meet again. Give her a kiss on the check and wish her a good night. Then leave.
This is not a defeat. When you react like this to LMR you actually increase your chances of having success with the same woman later on.
For example, in my personal history the women who resisted me the longest and were doing this stuff were two girls; one of them resisted me for 2 years, another one for 5 years… and both became my lovers after that time.
These are extreme cases of women with an extremely strong and wild primative part. The one who resisted me for two years turned out to be a real tiger in bed.
So believe in yourself!
This is the way to go when you want to properly escalate sexually with a woman you like and make her yours.
Cheers,
Franco.
Helping men since 2004
The social law of reciprocation implies that we should always reciprocate good behavior.
According to this law, we feel obliged to reciprocate when someone gives us something.
For the same reason, we feel socially obliged to maintain a balance between giving and receiving.
In order to understand your strength as a male and in order to control you in a relationship,a woman can use female selfishness and break this principle, either right from the start, or some time into a relationship.
When a woman is emotionally and sexually attracted to you and she behaves selfishly, she does so in an attempt to test how strong you are as a male.
This can be either a sign that her personality is not good enough for a relationship, or it can be a test of your Ego strength and leadership qualities.
You should be able to quickly detect what female selfishness is and know how to react properly to her behavior in order to make her attracted to you and keep her that way.
This kind of female selfishness is absolutely not the same thing as “average selfish behavior” in a person, regardless of their gender.
Female selfishness is a peculiar, different kind of selfishness with a clear process behind it. If you focus too much on the content and not enough on the process, you will not be able to see what is really going on.
This is not meant to insult the female sex. These behaviors are usually unconscious and dictated by instinct. Instincts are wild and do not follow the laws of ethics.
Most men usually do not understand the true meaning of selfishness in the case of women. They do not realize that it is not only a character trait, but also, and above all, a test.
This is where the word “bitch” comes from: men who don’t understand the evolutionary origins of selfishness in a woman and how to properly deal with it.
It is also true that some women who do this type of test are narcissistic psychos, but that is not true in all the cases; sometimes good girls can also test you in this way, and it is good for you to be prepared.
The difference between a truly selfish narcissist woman and a good girl is that a good girl will slowly stop this kind of behavior when you react to it like a real man, while the spoiled freaky woman will keep repeating that behavior again and again in the future.
You can encounter this kind of behavior both during the dating game and during a long-term relationship with a woman.
For example, during a date she will begin to speak non-stop about her needs in an almost arrogant and pretentious way, without the slightest consideration for your needs.
At this point, if you are a nice guy or simply a man without enough experience in female psychology and seduction, you will totally fail to understand the real point behind her behavior, and you will begin to feel guilty and try to please her over and over again.
This will quickly establish a double standard in your relationship, and she will start seeing you as a doormat, making her sexual attraction and respect for you fall faster than a bird shot by an M16.
Also, if you lose control, begin to get angry, and argue with her, you also lose the game. By having you argue with her, she manages to control her own sexual instinct, because when you argue, you are investing your energy into her at her command while showing that you cannot control your emotions.
As we have seen elsewhere, a woman finds it crucial to be able to control her own sexual instinct to avoid being at your mercy. So, whatever you do that helps her controlling her sexual instinct plays against you.
Now, this is the proper way of dealing with a woman’s double standard in matters of her needs versus your own needs.
1. The main thing you need to do is:
Take the role of an educator and educate her!
Each time she acts like a spoiled Princess you stay calm, take the role of the Patriarch, and begin to educate her about how to act properly.
Now, this is important: don’t tell her why and do not argue! Simply establish the law!
You establish the law by reframing every attempt she makes to establish a double standard about her needs versus your needs.
If she tries to argue with you, use humor and tease her back without losing emotional control.
For example:
Her: ”I want to go to Spanish restaurants; I only like Spanish; all other restaurants are simply disgusting” (and you sense she says this with that spoiled Princess’s attitude that pisses you off so much!)
You: ”Ah.. nice, let’s go to Spanish restaurants; I also like Spanish food” (do not address at all her spoiled behavior at this stage)
The following week:
You: ”I made reservations for us at the Chinese restaurant; I adore Chinese food..”
Her: ”I hate Chinese..”
You. (Here you tease her about her spoiled behavior) ”Don’t worry I am sure they have some dead bull killed by a scary bullfighter they can use to make a steak for you. Let’s go!”
Here, you pass her test, and she thinks ”Wow, what a man!”
Now, be prepared: if her personality is the one of the sexually submissive good girl, she will slowly correct this behavior, and her attraction for you will skyrocket.
If she is a narcissistic, spoiled, freaky girl, she will get angry, and will repeat her selfish behavior again and again.
Stay calm: it is her responsibility to correct her behavior, not yours. This is where freeze-outs are gold: just freeze her out for as much as you need to.
The longest freeze-out I have put into action with an MLTR of mine was… one year and a half long. Right now: she is with me again, telling me what a wonderful man I am, and how much she loves me.
Sometimes she says: ”I am not sure if I can say this… this experience with you taught me humility.”
This woman I am talking about was used to having her entire social circle stand up promptly and satisfy every needs of hers!
Now, she says: ”You taught me humility”
When faced with double standards… be the Patriarch and educate her! It keeps her wanting you!
Anyway, to be able to put this into practice, it is important for you to understand the whole picture of a woman’s psychology.
The best way to do that is… getting your copy of the Manual of Seduction I wrote for men:
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Franco, helping men since 2004
I am going to share with you the powerful seduction technique of the "masculine compliment."
Today, I noticed that I am often asked:
"Franco, can I compliment a woman? Is complimenting a woman only something ‘beta males’ do? Am I being too much of a nice guy if I give her compliments and treat her too well?”
Well, that’s not the case.
You can be good to a woman. The important thing is ”how” you are being good to her.
There is a widespread belief that complimenting a woman could be seen as a sign of weakness, a sign that the guy is "beta."
Well, that’s not the case!
Don’t be a prisoner of your beliefs when you seduce women!
Weakness is when you do that in order to get something from her and are being subservient.
Weakness is when you don’t lead her and you are not "penetrating" her…(LOL)
It is all about symbols: being masculine with a woman is not only an act, it is also a symbol.
When you make sure that your actions get the right symbols across, you are safe: you can compliment her, bring her to restaurant, buy her flowers, and tell her that she is beautiful.
All the nice things that cross your mind are okay
One of the aspects of my teachings is that I help guys learn how to be nice without actually being a ”nice guy.”
You do not need to be abrasive: when you like a woman, you want to be nice to her.
Just make sure you are nice to her like a man and not like a wimp!
When you lead her, when you "penetrate" her with your personality and your self-confident attitude, you can compliment her as much as you want!
It is not about compliments, it is about the "symbols" conveyed in your complimenting.
"Penetrating her" is not only an act, it is a symbol, a masculine symbol.
When you insert masculine symbols into your compliments she will never think of you as a turn off and a "nice guy."
Let’s start with the easy: when you ”cannot” compliment her.
If you are only complimenting her to get something from her, then don’t!
It is sub-servient, and it will turn her off.
Just tell her what you want!
No compliments at all.
If your are only complimenting her to avoid pauses of silence in the conversation, then don’t!
She will sense this.
Learn how to keep a conversation alive instead.
If you are only complimenting to have her stay in the conversation with you, then don’t!
That is a huge mistake.
She has to feel that you can stop talking with her any time. There is no bigger turn off for a woman than when she senses that you need her too much!
You should not appear needy, remember!
If you are only complimenting her to make her like you more, then that is the biggest possible mistake!
Rule number one when complimenting a woman is this:
YOU COMPLIMENT HER BECAUSE YOU WANT TO!
You are not trying to please her!
You are stating what you feel without shame!
There is a big, big difference between the two: stating what you feel without shame and trying to kiss up to her!
Women can detect the difference between the two in seconds!
When you appear shameless and self-confident, when you lead the woman, you can compliment her at will – absolutely, no problem!
And… for the sake of that, there is something very powerful you can do when complimenting.
It is what you could call a masculine "penetrative" compliment 
You can tell her something nice you truly feel about her – remember: it must be sincere!
At the same time, you can infuse your compliment with a symbol telling her that you are really not ashamed of "penetrating" her as a woman.
A ”penetrative” compliment is made of two parts:
1. A true and sincere comment about some good feeling you have about her.
2. Another sincere comment telling her that you like her, want to take her, and are normally ”penetrative” with a woman.
This works if you are absolutely direct, sincere, and totally shameless about your feelings.
When you are still in the initial phase of attracting her, you should be little bit more indirect, more subtle.
This is because women are vastly different in terms of personal comfort levels and receptiveness, and we men have been truly scary and dangerous throughout history, and we still are at times.
It is normal for a woman to want to feel comfortable and safe before she can relax with you.
So, don’t exaggerate what I am suggesting here in the early stages of a seduction, otherwise you will scare away the better women and only manage to seduce all the hard-core freaks!
You need to strike the right balance for each woman.
On the other hand, some women who are very straightforward and self-confident will not be so uncomfortable, actually they will love it.
Some others will be more shy and need more comfort to open up to you.
You should combine your compliments with symbols of:
- Absolute lack of shame in regard to your sexual desire as a man.
- Absolute will to lead her as a man.
- Implying that you can get easily women if you wish to.
- You are totally open minded with regard to your masculine sexual desire and women in general.
A healthy, sexually receptive woman will find the above qualities huge turn ons!
Remember: no comments about her beauty! She has heard that before.
You can compliment her about her other qualities like her personality, her job, the town she is living in, how she speaks, the intelligent things she says- whatever indicates a true interest in her as a person and is not directed towards her beauty.
And then… in the second part of your compliment, you can insert your shameless "penetrative" act.
The penetrative comment should not be rude, and it can also be a pretty indirect verbal description of something that will turn her on.
You can be sure that women will be very, very good at reading between the lines of your subtle communication. Women are masters of reading you between the lines.
The difficult part is balancing: this you can learn only by doing your field work and by seducing many women.
What can be felt by a man as ”shy and subtle” can be already ”direct enough” for a woman.
So, you do not need to overdo this.
Use rich verbal descriptions: they are powerful.
Strike the right balance!
With more shy and reserved girl: be less cocky and more subtle; not every girl is comfortable straight away with being "penetrated."
With open minded and more "wild" girls, be as direct as she can get!
With girls who are playing the part of the "guy" and trying to seduce you, you can be even more direct – to the point of shocking them.
That also helps you detect are they for real or trying to fool you!
Examples of mixed penetrative compliments:
You: "Ahh.. so you are a great cook, that’s great; you cook all kinds of stuff… I am impressed. It must be wonderful to keep in your hands in all that WET AND WARM STUFF while cooking."
And let her figure out what you mean with the "wet and warm stuff in her hands."
You: "I heard that you are a great lawyer; my compliments, I really appreciate true professionals… (first part) I like lawyers a lot, they are so good with the TONGUE (pause) and verbal expression otherwise." – with a smile:) (The penetrative masculine sexual part)
You: ”Wow, you are a wonderful teacher, my compliments… I heard that you are a great professional at the school. (the compliment) If I would be a pupil of yours I would surely want you out of the class for some more ”private” lessons…” > with smile (the masculine ”penetrative” part)
See, here you are compliment her and being quite straightforward about your desire of taking her as a woman.
When you still are in the phase of attracting her you cannot be too direct… otherwise you will come across as a jerk, and the cocky part will overpower the funny part.
For example, the subtle rich description of the girl who is a cook keeping her hands in the ”wet and warm stuff” is much better for a situation where you are not that intimate with her, yet.
When you have established a relationship with her and she is sexually receptive to you, you can be as direct as you want… that turns on a receptive woman like no tomorrow in a relationship.
Think about it: a man is turned on by a feminine, sexually receptive woman and a woman is turned on by a sexually active, straightforward man who makes no mystery of his desire and willingness to satisfy it…
That’s one of the main reasons so many women fall for bad guys, by the way: they make no mystery of their desire as men.
See, you can compliment a woman and be "penetrative" at the same time… like a man should.
When you compliment a woman too much without inserting masculine, penetrative symbols, after a while she begins to feel that you are a helpless nice guy and… that turns her off!
She soon sees you as a ”male girlfriend”:)
That is because the more beautiful she is, the more she is overloaded by people trying to be nice to her.
As you are being subtle, you won’t get slapped, don’t worry!
By striking the right balance, you can detect how far you can push it by observing her non-verbal reactions carefully.
In a relationship – after you have attracted her and made of her yours – you can be far more direct compared to dating a new girl.
Then, alternate periods of niceness with periods of "full penetration" when you compliment her.
This alternation of pure kindness and penetrative comments turns the majority of women on sexually.
Women get easily bored and are sexually turned off if you repeat the same stuff all the time.
On the other hand, it is important that, when you please her, you give her the message that you are pleasing yourself first.. and her in the process.
So this works best when you enjoy it yourself.
When she is already sexually receptive in the relationship with you, THE LAST THING SHE WANTS – believe me – is a nice guy who is always "asking forgiveness" for his his sexual desire.
In a relationship, you CAN also compliment her about her beauty when you insert into it the penetrative element from time to time.
She is your woman: she KNOWS that you also like her for her beauty!
So, these ones are ok in relationships:
You: (getting home) "Ahh…you have such beautiful eyes… " and at the same time you go down and kiss and bite her rear a little bit… instead of the eyes.
You: "What nice hair you have…" > while caressing her legs in between.
You: "Jesus you are so FUCKING sexy! I like the way you move."
DON’ T DO THIS ALL THE TIME.
No one can stand continuous tension without hitting their head against the wall.
You need to strike a good balance in relationships, too.
At times you can be sweeter and little bit nicer, focus on creating a good rapport with her and then.. out of the blue..
The warrior!
You come from the shower room, put a hand on her leg and say:
You: "Ahh… you have the most wonderful legs in the world… let me bite them… " grab her leg and bite her all over.
Here you are inserting a primitive, aggressive symbol into your compliment, that turns many women on.
See.. you CAN compliment a woman without being a nice guy.
IMPORTANT: if a woman reacts with an exaggerated ashamed and uneasy reaction or with full anger to a mixed penetrative compliment that is conveyed by you, quit your interaction with that woman instantly!
And if you are in a relationship with her, you’d better consider quitting it!
She probably has problems in being receptive to men… or maybe not even heterosexual and WHY THE HELL would you, heterosexual man, be with a woman like that?
Think about it.
About keeping balance: to be able to keep a good balance for each woman, you will need to understand the WHOLE PICTURE ABOUT SEDUCTION AND FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY!
Without fully understanding the whole picture of how the female mind works in matters of sexuality, you will not be able to properly put my advice into practice.
You will need the Manual of Seduction to know how:
Manual of Seduction for Husbands & Single Men by Franco
To your success with women,
Cheers, Franco
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